It feels like everyone I know is choosing a “word of the year” and I want to resist but I just can’t. I don’t make New Years Resolutions any more, because I got sick of failure. Instead, sometimes I make one or two easy to measure goals, like I just want to weigh less on this day next year and I write that on my calendar so that it can be useful and measurable. I believe that you can only do a few things really well and that is why this “word of the year” fad is appealing to me. It is one thing that may touch several areas of life and so that one thing can make a big difference. So here is my review from last year and my reveal for 2019 and they are a little different on purpose.
My 2018 Word of the Year:
Returning from our magical Christmas in England, we did not have all the decorations to put away or the big tree to haul off. We just came home and unpacked. As I sat in the quiet of the last few days of 2018 and put all that had passed in order, I asked myself what do I want 2018 to feel like? I kept coming back to how good it felt after a long day of touring Oxford, England to sit down to a nice pot of tea and a platter of treats or a warm scone. I wanted more of that in my life. More warm scones and clotted cream for sure, but really more space to sit in the quiet afternoon and review the hard work of the day and catch my breath for the rest of the day. So I tried to make that my practice at least once a week. I started to take note of the fractious feeling and if I found it happening around two in the afternoon and I was home, I would stop and have tea. It cured many of my bad days. My word for 2018 was:
I don’t plan to leave it behind either. The English call it the cup that refreshes and I will continue to take it.
These are my favorite tea-things:
I like loose tea:
A nice single serve teapot:
A beautiful tea cup makes a difference:
My 2019 Word of the Year reveal:
My new word is not nearly as beautiful and I can’t write lines and lines of poetry about it, but I think it means more than just one thing. I think it has something to do with all the hard work of this new task I have set for myself as a blogger. I see people doing this thing called blogging so effortlessly, like they were born blogging. While I am over here saying how do you do that? I just learned how to wrap my text around an image on Saturday. I am starting way behind and technology is not my gift so I’m struggling and sometimes it gets a little messy and I look foolish and in over head and it is all public! What does that have to do with my word you might ask. Well, someone asked me if I had in resolutions for the new year and I said, “No, I don’t believe in them, but I do want to learn how to use chopsticks this year so I can stop looking like a dork eating sushi with a fork. So I guess that is my resolution for 2019.” And that is how I started to think about my 2019 word of the year.
When a word means more
For me learning how to blog looks as awkward and unnatural as an adult learning how to eat with chopsticks. The technology of blogging is foreign to me. The ways that social media are used to create a platform feel like navigating a map on another planet with landmarks I have never seen before. I just want to write beautiful sentences and tell good stories, find my people to encourage and inspire them. But here i am figuring out an email sequences to go with my opt-in and it feels a lot like being hungry and looking at the chicken that keeps falling in the bowl when I lose my grip on the chopstick. I just want to eat a bowl of chicken and string together some good words. When this year ends, I will pick up my chopsticks and eat that bowl of chicken or that platter of sushi to celebrate my first full year blogging and all my accomplishments. I will only be able to do both because I have taken the time to develop a new dexterity for each, one a physical skill that requires my muscles and one a virtual skill that requires my mind and my heart. And who knows, I might weigh less because we both know I will be working harder for fewer calories as I learn to use chopsticks.